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Thursday, February 5, 2015

Does TRUE LOVE really exist?

No one really knows what true love is. No one can describe it or explain it. Not many recognise it at the time and some miss it completely.

The term "True Love" is questionable.
What is true love?
Is true love what you feel after you're with someone for a few months? After a year or two? After a few years?
Is true love what you feel when things are blissful all the time and you hardly ever fight because one of you always just goes with whatever the other says or you're both so chilled that neither one cares what the other does?
Is it when you see the other person everyday or every other day and they stay on your mind because you're always with them or they're always calling and texting?

I believe true love is two imperfect people who love each other perfectly. Perfectly doesn't mean you don't fight, you don't argue, you never mess up, you never hurt each other... It means quite the opposite actually.
It means you don't agree all the time because you're different individuals. You get on each others nerves sometimes because you aren't the same person. You mess up and make mistakes. You make the wrong decisions. You screw up. But you love each other still.
You love each other past the screw ups, the bad decisions, the wrong choices, the hurt. You love each other past the wrongs and the mistakes and throughout time.
True love is not 'out of site - out of mind'. True love doesn't go away. You can go weeks, months and years without seeing the other person but they stay constantly on your mind, in your dreams and in your heart. It feels like you've been frozen in time. Every memory is still so fresh when you're reminded of them and when you think back at the last time you saw them you're shocked at how much time has passed.

Is true love in the here and now? Does it mean you're truly in love with someone until you break up and move on to the next person and then you're truly in love with them? No.
True love means if you break up and you move on with someone else or new people, you still think about the other person or you're still reminded of them whether things are good or bad with the new person. It's like your heart always knows it belongs somewhere else.

Many people look at love stories and try and compare their relationships to them. They want flawless perfect love. But does perfect love actually exist? If it did that would mean perfect people existed... and do they?
Truth of the matter is, the best love stories are the complicated ones. The ones with flaws. The imperfect ones. Those are the ones where True Love actually prevails. Where is True Love evident if your relationship has been "perfect" from day one - no fights, no arguments, no misunderstandings, no communication breakdowns, no mistakes?
True Love becomes apparent when you make it through the trials, the roadblocks, the mess ups and the hurt.

The Notebook: "They didn't agree on much. In fact, they rarely agreed on anything. They fought all the time, and they challenged each other every day. But despite their differences, they had one important thing in common. They were crazy about each other"
"So it's not gonna be easy. It's going to be really hard; we're gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, everyday. You and me... everyday..."

Allie and Noah reunited after 7 years apart and while they were both with other people - Allie even engaged to be married to another man.
Separated for 7 years and being engaged to someone else didn't stop them from finding each other, getting back together and rekindling their love.
7 years is a short time apart for the 50 plus years they spend together thereafter.

After being separated for years it doesn't matter anymore who did what - who ended things, who's fault the break up was, who was with who after they broke up, who engaged or married who... all that fades out and all that matters is that you're back together again and your love persevered. All that matters is that you have what so many people spend a life time searching for, hoping for or wishing they could find - TRUE LOVE.

The movie "Letters to Juliet" depicts 'True Love' beautifully and explains it in a way so few others ever could.

"What' and ‘if’ are two words as nonthreatening
as words can be. But put
them together side-by-side and they
have the power to haunt you for the
rest of your life: What if?,.. What if?,.. What if? 
If what you felt
then was true love then
it's never too late. If it was true
then why wouldn't it be true
now? You need only the courage to
follow your heart...
I don't know what a love like Juliet's feels like ...
a love to leave loved ones for, a love to cross oceans
but I'd like to believe if I ever were to feel it.
That I'd have the courage to seize it. "

True love stands the test of time and once you experience real TRUE LOVE, no other person you're with will ever feel the same. Your True Love will always be right there - in the back of your mind waiting for the day that it will find it's other half again.

I believe in TRUE LOVE... do you?
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