How do I know if my ex was the one for me? Could my ex have
been Mr / Mrs Right? Should I have stayed with my ex? Was I meant to be with my
ex?
Break-ups can be confusing. They can leave you with a
million questions and a thousand regrets. When you’re in a new relationship,
engaged, or married and still having doubts about your ex though, these little ‘issues’
can become somewhat amplified.
Many people find themselves pondering on thoughts of their
exes when things don’t go well in their new relationships. They wonder what
their ex would have done or said, how he or she would have reacted or how
different things could have been. Sometimes these thoughts are just planted to
exaggerated due to the current negative situations in your present relationship,
other times they aren’t. The following might help you figure out the
difference.
Was your current relationship a rebound one?
A rebound relationship is one which begins a very short
amount of time after the ending of your prior relationship. This is likely to
be under a month or two.
If you initially started dating your current partner as a
rebound to your ex, this might be a major role player in your thoughts or
feelings for your ex. The truth of the matter is that you didn’t give yourself
a chance to heal from the relationship with your ex, you didn’t have closure
and you likely to have started dating your current partner for all the wrong
reasons – to try and heal from your break-up with your ex, to get back at your
ex, to make your ex jealous, etc.
How can you tell the difference?
As was mentioned earlier, it is common to think about the
good in your ex when you have a fall out or go through a negative or tough time
with your current partner. This is somewhat unfair to your current partner and an
unfair advantage to your ex. A good way to try and measure whether or not your
feelings for your ex are sincere and not just a way of comforting yourself
through the rough patch with your current partner, is to REALLY compare the two
– no advantages, no unfairness – total equality.
How to compare your ex and your current partner.
You need to formulate a table and compare various
situations, scenarios and stations. Think about things clearly and be
completely honest and unbiased. Once you’ve answered you need to go through the
answers allocated to your ex and that to your current partner clearly measuring
which is better and which is worse. Better scores a 1 and worse scores a 0.
Once you’ve calculated the scores you will be able to tell who was overally
better for you. Individual scores will allow you to tell who treated you better
and who you had stronger feelings for.
If you can think of anything further be sure to add it.
Remember this can only be used as an aid to get you thinking. Only you really
know the truth.
Hope this helps!
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