Benefits of Dating or marrying an older person: Age Gap Relationships

 

What are some of the benefits to being in an age-gap relationship? What makes being in an age-gap relationship better than a same-age relationship? What is considered an age-gap relationship?

Benefits of being in an Age-Gap Relationship

This article looks at the Benefits and Advantages you are likely to be surrounded with when in an age gap relationship. There are many more advantages then listed in this article but these are just some of the Pro's I enjoy as someone in an Age-Gap relationship.

What are Age Gap Relationships?

Most would define an Age-gap relationship as one where either partner is 10 or more years older than the other. 

Just as with any other kind of relationship, there are some challenges to being in an age-gap relationship. You can read more about these here.

If you look past the challenges or agree that your love can overcome anything, there are many more benefits to being in an age-gap relationship.

This article is focused at looking at the up-side of being in an age-gap relationship for a younger person who may be in a relationship with an older person - but can also be viewed by an older person in order to see what a younger person may appreciate about being with him or her.

Pros of being in a relationship with or marrying an older man or woman

Once you can get past the challenges of Age-gap relationships or think of common ground, compromises or solutions to these challenges, there are many more benefits that you can enjoy as an Age-gap couple.  

1. Older people are usually more stable with regard to their careers 

One of the struggles often faced as a 'Mature-minded and responsible' lady dating a man her age (and possibly by a similar character man dating a lady his own age) is often that the partners you find yourself dating may not seem on the same wave-length as you. They may seem flighty, fickle or immature. I often struggled with the frustration of working hard in my career in order to be successful only to be held back or annoyed by a partner who was indecisive regarding what he wanted to do, not determined enough or not taking an active stance in building a good career. 

When dating an older person it is often that they are already settled in their careers. They have made it past the indecisive phase and have an established career. If they were fickle and indecisive in their youth you managed to fast forward past that part and now have someone on the same wave-length.

2. Older people are usually more stable with regard to their relationships

Similar to the struggles faced in not feeling like you are on the same wave-length career stability wise - another struggle for me had always been finding someone on the same level with regard to a relationship. There is nothing more annoying then having the mature mindset of settling down and being a one man lady or a one lady man only to find that your partner still has a wondering eye because he hasn't matured out of this yet. Yes, some people will unfortunately never mature out of the wondering eye (and often infidelities) but in many cases this is a youth issue that most will grow out of.

Similarly to this, you may find that a younger partner may still be in the mindset of partying or late-nights out with the boys or girls whereas you may just want to spend time as a couple or do things together. 

I have found that when in a relationship with an older partner they are more on the same wave-length as I am in this regard. If you are more of a homebody or someone that enjoys going out with your partner or as a family then an older partner may be just right for you.

3. Older people usually know exactly what they want because they've already experienced various relationships or different types of people

When it comes to dating an older partner, the advantage of their added years is that they have "seen it all". They've had good relationships and bad ones so they know a good one when they see it. This would save you the common relationship problem of being taken advantage of and then having your absence regretted at a later stage. An older partner is more likely to recognize a good thing when he / she sees it and appreciate you for your worth.

4. An older person can teach you a thing or two

Without going into too much detail, I will say that in the bedroom alone, an older persons years are an added advantage :)

Besides the bedroom, however, you can generally learn a lot from your older partner. I find myself turning to my partner more than I would google. He is wise beyond his years and it is always beneficial running things past him. He helps me make better decisions in my career and parenting life as well. 

5. There are often no nasty surprises

When you are in a relationship with an older partner they are usually set in their ways. What you see is often what you get. You do not have to live in wonder on what they will be like 5 years down the line when they've changed and hope that who they will be still matches up to your expectations. With an older partner the person you date is often the person you marry and will be the same person 10 or 80 years down the line.

6. Chivalry is not dead

I may not speak for every older man out there but I know for sure that mine is a Gentleman. If you are a lady who appreciates a good Gentleman or being treated like a real lady then an older man may just be for you. I have always been a sucker for romance and never in any of my same age relationships have I ever come across a gentleman as I have found in my husband. It's been 5 years now and my Gentleman still opens the building or car door for me (every single time). We still slow dance to romantic music. He still sings to me whenever he gets the chance. 

7. A good role-model for your kids

If you are a young single parent, an older partner may be a great role-model to your child or children. If your older partner has children (even if fully grown already) he or she may be very "child friendly" and a suitable step-parent for your child or children based on maturity or experience. 

In Conclusion

There are various Pros and Advantages to being in an Age-Gap relationship. For me, the Pros outweigh the Cons. Although there are struggles and challenges as with every relationship out there, our Love stands the test of time and I wouldn't trade my husband for anything in the world.

Do not limit yourself when looking for a partner. Restrictions such as height, looks or even age are unnecessary blockages on the road to finding your true love. Sometimes the one person you are best suited for you may over look as "not your type". This is a huge mistake.

Keep your eyes open, avoid restrictions and you might just find your Soul-Mate.

Are you in an Age-Gap relationship? Please comment below to share your experiences and the things you enjoy most about your partner or relationship.

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Posted by Jade