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Tuesday, June 7, 2011

How to ask a guy out

So you meet this really awesome guy and you can’t help but feel a connection. He’s just your type, your personalities match up perfectly, and you have tons of fun whenever you’re together or the conversation flow is amazing and you know that you can both feel the chemistry. It all seems perfect except for one thing - he hasn’t asked you out yet and doesn’t seem like he will anytime soon.
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Reasons why he hasn’t asked you out yet

There are various reasons for this usually and it’s important to make sure that you fully assess all the possibilities before taking the leap of asking a guy out. You may want to read up on possible reasons why he hasn’t made a commitment to you yet. It’s important that you try as hard as you can to be sure that he does in fact have feelings for you before putting yourself in this position in order to avoid unnecessary disappointment.
How to ask a guy out
If he does have feelings for you and you can tell, then why not ask him out yourself, right? Why not? If he is shy or finds you intimidating or is scared of commitment then this would be the best thing you could ever do. You need to be prepared for rejection though if things don’t work out your way. You need to go into it knowing that anything can happen although hoping for the best. If you can’t take rejection and you’re not sure about yourself and his feelings for you then best you just walk away or keep hoping that he’ll eventually ask you out.
Ways to ask a guy out
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1.       Hint, hint, HINT

This is a great idea because it will allow him to feel man-ish like he took the first step, allow you to feel that you were asked out by him (if that is what you want) and allow you to protect yourself from rejection. The problem is that sometimes guys may not always get the hints you make. You might think you’re making a really obvious hint and by nature he might TOTALLY miss it. That’s why it’s important that you try your best to make hints he won’t miss.

2.       Ask ‘The Question’

My favourite (and seemingly the most effective) way of asking a boy out or at least knowing where you stand once and for all is the question. I’m not talking about asking him to be your boyfriend or your man; I’m talking about another question. One that puts the pressure on him and allows you to find out straight away what you need to know.
·         The question is; “What am I to you?”
·         This is the easiest way to get to the point without getting to the point.
When asking a guy this question, especially when face-to-face you will know exactly where you stand. You will be able to see it in his eyes and hear it in his speech. He’s smile or him blushing, him hesitating or thinking hard, it will all tell you whether he’s lying or being honest with you and if he is honest with you you’ll know too.
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·         Assuming he’s being honest to you, and says “your my best girl mate” or anything else assuring a friends only relationship, at least you know right away and you won’t have to waste another minute of your time not knowing, hoping, or waiting for something that may or may not happen.
·         The answer we’re looking for with regards to ‘The Question’ is him replying “MY girlfriend”. Some guys might actually do this because maybe in his mind he sees you as already dating and may have just not seen the point in saying something that he already thought you were both aware of.
·         Some guys however might turn the tables around on you and reply “What do you want to be”.  In reply to this you could simply blurt out your feelings for him, tell him you’d like him to be your boyfriend and ask him out (I personally wouldn’t do this – especially if your plan was to hint in order for him to ask you out). This would still leave you open to the possibility of rejection.
A reply in line with hinting would be to ‘answer a question with a question’; “what would you like me to be?”
This would hopefully result in him saying something that will let you know exactly where you stand and everything will be out in the open.
You need to use your imagination. Think like a guy (if that’s at all possible) and just do what feels best. Some of these may work for you, some might not and some might work better if you change them a little to suite and the guy you’re afters personalities.  If you’re sure that he feels for you the way you do for him, then you have nothing to lose.

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