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Hello,
I am
a 19-year-old girl; I’ve known this guy from college and dated him for about 3
months. We had an amazing relationship and everything was pretty cool - we
didn't face any problems or anything. Then suddenly he said he wanted to be
alone and I was shocked. I said okay and we became friends. Then we got into a
fight because I saw him with other girls laughing and stuff and that really
hurt me. We fixed things up but then he turned upside down and I don't even
know what happened. Even though we were no longer together he was like “I don't
wanna talk to u again” and deleted me from Facebook.
It's
been 4 months now since we broke up but I still see him looking at me. I’ve
sent him the first time a message wishing him the best but he didn't even
respond. I couldn't forget him coz he was so special to me so I’ve sent him
another one saying I was sorry and would stop the madness even thought it
wasn't my fault at all. He responded by saying he accepted my apology but when
he walks in front of me he won't even talk to me :( and I couldn't just go to
him because I feel like I’m too heavy on him. But I do still see him staring at
me and I don’t know what to do and what he really feels about me. What should I
do?
Please
help me.
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Hi
there
Thanks
a lot for your question. I hope that you will find my answer helpful in some
way.
I’m
really sorry for what you’re experiencing and that things don’t seem to be
getting much better for you.
Four
months is a long time to be dealing with a break up. You were together for
three months so that means that it’s taking you a longer period to get over him
then the amount of time you were dating for. This must mean that you had really
deep feelings for him or that he was one of your very first (if not the first)
real relationships you had.
Please
read:
I
think that the best for you would be to move on. I know that that may seem
hard, harsh and blunt but it’s the best thing you can do. It doesn’t seem like
this guy is giving you much of a choice or much to hang on to beside the fact
that he stares at you a lot. His staring could mean that he is either leading
you on deliberately because he likes the attention you give him (which is a
very wrong thing to do) or he does still have some amount of interest in you.
Either way – this is not enough for you to obsess over him and hurt yourself by
hoping things can be fixed between you.
I
suggest that you stop sending him messages or making an effort with him because
he doesn’t deserve this from you especially since you did not do anything wrong
in the first place. Give him his space. If he really does have feelings for you
he will make an effort with you – he will call you, message you or speak to you
the next time you see him and you will be the one to decide whether or not you
still ant to fix things. You need to value yourself enough to stop allowing
yourself to be hurt by him.
Good
luck and God Bless!
xoxo
Jade
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